a blast from my past

[sistawendy]

More than a dozen years ago, before I even seriously considered transitioning (Foreshadowing!) and before MOOs went comatose, there was a MOOer I'll call S. They disappeared from radar. I don't remember its being particularly sudden, but it wasn't really announced, and several of us MOOers noticed her absence and missed her. I didn't think too much of it at the time because hey, life happens, and that kind of disappearance was almost the norm.

Fast forward to yesterday. S jumps on a certain major social networking platform that we MOOers all gravitated toward to tell us all she's trans and transitioning. MOOers rejoice!

It's fantastic that S is taking this huge step that she needs to take. Good Goddess, nobody knows that better than I do. But what makes me sad is that for the last dozen-plus years, she's been living virtually the same life I did with no one to talk to or help her.

• Thought being in a relationship would smother gender dysphoria? Check.
• Had kids? Check.
• Marriage? Check.
• Delayed and painful divorce? Check.

S is unfortunately in a less benign work and geographic situation than I ever was, but otherwise the parallels between her & me are uncanny. I'm so sad that it happened, and there was no one from the MOO there for her.

But it's over. S is back with us, and with a better future than she ever imagined possible twelve years ago.

Comments

[eeyorerin]

Do you remember Mord-Sith/Mordie? He has also transitioned according to what I've seen on the book of faces.

[sistawendy]

WAT? I'm only a little surprised, really. People on the thread with S were claiming that I transed a bunch of other MOOers. I'm kind of proud of that non-accomplishment.

[eeyorerin]

Yeah, he goes by Emmett now. There might only be one T; I can't remember how he spells it. If you're FB friends with Aliz he comments on her posts sometimes.