My daughter will be going into the fourth grade. The only thing she needs from me at this point is to spend money on last minute requests from the teacher. Shopping beforehand will cure most of this problem. I fully expect to not be known to her shortly or drive the wrong car.

Your wife kicked you out of the house and out of their lives. She seems to only want you around to do things. I cannot fathom how she managed to completely cut off her feelings for you just because you look like a woman.

She rejected you, therefore, you are your own person. In some religions, that would be divorced. Do what you want. She has plenty of time and warning and can adjust her schedule to accommodate it. She has no right to complain.