I have to say that the "thought and effort into analysing the options and making a conscious choice" to be poly does not, unfortunately, always play out in them making any better partners than non-pensive monogamous partners. I've seen things fall apart on all sides of the fence when the person is not self-aware about their actions, and it ruffles my feathers when I must listen to poly people talk about how it is so much more natural to be poly than monogamous. I try not to hang out with the self-righteous ones for that reason.

I think that each action in our lives deserves conscious consideration and self-awareness, not just our sexuality. No one has the right answer to everything (or if they do, they are not sharing) and I much prefer to be called out for it when I start getting preachy. Maura, please call me out if I ever start saying such things to you?