It's no loss, honestly. If she's more concerned about the hypothetical motives of someone she doesn't even know than about your own feelings and she flips out and flounces when she's called on it, she's a bad friend and I'm glad she's self-identified as an intolerant ass so I feel no guilt about cutting her out of my life.

I am very sorry to set the torch to gasoline in your space, but I would like to point out that she presumed I was speaking about her (I wasn't, in fact). And that speaks volumes about her own feelings on the subject of friendship vis-a-vis the rights of trans* people, IMO.