Nibsmother now knows.

[sistawendy]

A few minutes ago, Nibs and I had a nice, long phone call with Nibsmother. It went very well. I'm almost ashamed of myself (and Nibs) for thinking that it might have gone otherwise.

There are, of course, dozens of letters going all over the world (really) to Nibs' friends and relations, including one to her dad. (Nibs & her mom concur that's better than a phone call for him. Okey doke.) So, the potential for fireworks still exists, but it's greatly reduced.

I'm still not dead at the hands of short Jews. My in-laws haven't just exceeded expectations; they've thrashed them soundly.

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Work emergency yesterday made even more difficult by the office move. Why, Uncle Steve, why do you let this continue?

Comments

[grace-batmonkey.livejournal.com]

WHEW! That's wonderful! I know there are still many hurdles, but that's a big one cleared. Hurray!

Also: Uncle Steve likes it that way. You'll never see it acknowledged at Company Meeting, but he's a Chaos Lord.

[9thmoon.livejournal.com]

I guess I don't understand the whole world-wide announcement. Is she particularly close with her whole extended family? I mean, half my family doesn't even know I'm pregnant. Or that I moved to Texas four years ago. Or who I am or am not married to, much less that person's gender identification.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Actually, she is pretty close to her extended family. She went to college with two or three cousins, and they all got together for Passover every year at least until Lisa went to college. I met them (all!) at a seder in L.A.; that was pretty intense. In that respect they're Old World Ashkenazim.

[maellenkleth]

I had an Ashkenazi lover once; to whom I was not out. Makes me curious, now, what is the current Talmudic take on transfolk?

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

It depends. Who's your rabbi? :)

[maellenkleth]

Heh. J Harrow. I was the rebbetzin for 14 years. Yeah, me being a shikseh and all!

[9thmoon.livejournal.com]

That is remarkable. I think that would make it more difficult for you... you're separating from the whole family, not just from your partner. =/

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Heh. Well, the flip side of a big, supportive, close extended family is a big, meddling, close extended family that wants to spend time with you when you'd rather be with your friends. In all fairness, though, Nibs always got far more of the meddling than I ever did. I hope I do get to see them at least sometimes, and it looks pretty likely so far.

[evillinn.livejournal.com]

I'm so glad to read this. It seems inevitable that there will be difficulties, but every step taken that goes well is good credit.
Lots of good thoughts to you all as your boy chews on all of this. I have no doubt, given the foundation you guys have laid for him, that he'll ultimately be fine. I hope the getting there is fine, too.