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sistawendy) wrote2010-09-19 10:54 pm
sistawendy) wrote2010-09-19 10:54 pm
Putting the sex in transsexual. And the zap. And the PTA.
I spent part of last night at the Mercury talking with another MTF transsexual about the sex lives of MTFs. Basically, she said, if you're interested in women and you're pre-op, you're screwed out of luck unless you're attracted to other transsexuals. This wasn't news to me; it matches my own observations and really, as unpleasant as that is for us pre-ops, it makes perfect sense. If lesbians were OK with even a dysfunctional natural penis, they wouldn't quite be lesbians.
Bottom line: presentation matters with everyone. I gotta do what I gotta do to get the Grand Snip and otherwise look female, and that doesn't bother me one bit. What's cruel is that the large majority of MTFs don't have the same advantages I do.
Oh, and I'm sorry to say that even some transsexuals tell canards about bisexuals. I guess you and we get to fight it out for next-to-last in the hierarchy of queerdom, and heaven help anyone who's a member of both groups.
Speaking of presentation, I spent four hours today in Tacoma getting zappy. I even had lunch with Ms. Zappy in the middle of it. A week from today we're doing a six-hour session. Basicaly, I'm doing this to cut down on time & money spent going to Tacoma, plus Ms. Zappy's prices are going up next year.
PTA excitement continues for "conference week" (parents taking over the school during parent-teacher conferences). Before you tell me I'm out of my cotton pickin' mind, let me point out a few things:
From the Dept. of Heh: my landlord is a drummer in a jazz band. In the garage, to which I have no key, he has a soundproofed practice room with two drum kits that he rents out. Surely some of you can use that information.
(How do I know this if I have no key? I borrowed housemate M2's. I was looking for pliers.)
Bottom line: presentation matters with everyone. I gotta do what I gotta do to get the Grand Snip and otherwise look female, and that doesn't bother me one bit. What's cruel is that the large majority of MTFs don't have the same advantages I do.
Oh, and I'm sorry to say that even some transsexuals tell canards about bisexuals. I guess you and we get to fight it out for next-to-last in the hierarchy of queerdom, and heaven help anyone who's a member of both groups.
Speaking of presentation, I spent four hours today in Tacoma getting zappy. I even had lunch with Ms. Zappy in the middle of it. A week from today we're doing a six-hour session. Basicaly, I'm doing this to cut down on time & money spent going to Tacoma, plus Ms. Zappy's prices are going up next year.
PTA excitement continues for "conference week" (parents taking over the school during parent-teacher conferences). Before you tell me I'm out of my cotton pickin' mind, let me point out a few things:
- Nibs & I are collectively required to put in thirty hours of time with the PTA.
- Nibs didn't contribute much last year, and between her health and her recent success in finding work I don't expect her to contribute much this year either.
- No one else stepped forward, and time is of the essence. I was a footsoldier for conference week last year, so I was the best freak for the job.
- I'm also the best freak for the job because they need someone who can drive a computer to automate scheduling: there are multiple activities going on the whole time. Students pick the ones they want on a first come-first served basis, and it's up to us to prevent conflicts and keep the activities within capacity.
From the Dept. of Heh: my landlord is a drummer in a jazz band. In the garage, to which I have no key, he has a soundproofed practice room with two drum kits that he rents out. Surely some of you can use that information.
(How do I know this if I have no key? I borrowed housemate M2's. I was looking for pliers.)
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But being bi is largely frowned upon by anyone who *isn't* bi. I think it largely has to do with the misconception that people are bi because they are in some sort of denial about their sexuality, or that they are *so slutty* that they are interested in whatever they can get. Neither of these is actually true, in my observation and experience - most of the bi people I know are the MOST picky about whom they find interesting (possibly *because* they have a wider selection to choose from). Eh. I agree that your mileage may vary.
It is my hope that at least some of the people you find interesting, will find you interesting as well - regardless of your status (pre or post).
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It should be noted, here, that Spydrman and I made our commitment when we were both 23.
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Seriously, though, there are a lot of bi women out there, and a lot of lesbian women who really do get it about brain and biochem over bits, who are chill about outies.
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