Putting the sex in transsexual. And the zap. And the PTA.

[sistawendy]

I spent part of last night at the Mercury talking with another MTF transsexual about the sex lives of MTFs. Basically, she said, if you're interested in women and you're pre-op, you're screwed out of luck unless you're attracted to other transsexuals. This wasn't news to me; it matches my own observations and really, as unpleasant as that is for us pre-ops, it makes perfect sense. If lesbians were OK with even a dysfunctional natural penis, they wouldn't quite be lesbians.

Bottom line: presentation matters with everyone. I gotta do what I gotta do to get the Grand Snip and otherwise look female, and that doesn't bother me one bit. What's cruel is that the large majority of MTFs don't have the same advantages I do.

Oh, and I'm sorry to say that even some transsexuals tell canards about bisexuals. I guess you and we get to fight it out for next-to-last in the hierarchy of queerdom, and heaven help anyone who's a member of both groups.

---

Speaking of presentation, I spent four hours today in Tacoma getting zappy. I even had lunch with Ms. Zappy in the middle of it. A week from today we're doing a six-hour session. Basicaly, I'm doing this to cut down on time & money spent going to Tacoma, plus Ms. Zappy's prices are going up next year.

---

PTA excitement continues for "conference week" (parents taking over the school during parent-teacher conferences). Before you tell me I'm out of my cotton pickin' mind, let me point out a few things:

• Nibs & I are collectively required to put in thirty hours of time with the PTA.
• Nibs didn't contribute much last year, and between her health and her recent success in finding work I don't expect her to contribute much this year either.
• No one else stepped forward, and time is of the essence. I was a footsoldier for conference week last year, so I was the best freak for the job.
• I'm also the best freak for the job because they need someone who can drive a computer to automate scheduling: there are multiple activities going on the whole time. Students pick the ones they want on a first come-first served basis, and it's up to us to prevent conflicts and keep the activities within capacity.

---

From the Dept. of Heh: my landlord is a drummer in a jazz band. In the garage, to which I have no key, he has a soundproofed practice room with two drum kits that he rents out. Surely some of you can use that information.

(How do I know this if I have no key? I borrowed housemate M2's. I was looking for pliers.)

Comments

[draggonlaady.livejournal.com]

For what it's worth, based on the few times I've met you in person, I'd be willing to try a date or three with you--sadly that's rather unlikely given that I live some 8 hours drive away and have a boy who would not be interested in you until post-op. Though... uhm... maybe call after the big snip? We're kind of looking for another girl...

Guess I'm one of the slutty bi's. Heh.

The more I hear about people's horrible coming out experiences for whatever sort of queer they are, the more I am really glad that I have the family and friends that I have, because I have had really no drama about anything (other than occasional odd looks from my mom's folks). My huge revelation to myself about my sexuality consisted of the bf at the time (16 years old?) asking if I'd ever have sex with a girl. I thought about it for a minute and said I didn't see why not, they're prettier than boys anyway. And that was about it for agonizing over my sexual identity. ;)
I've also somehow managed to miss out on the hating from other queers. I'm awfully lucky, I guess.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Heh. I'm not into boys, but if that isn't a requirement I'll certainly look forward to any visits you might make. ;)

[draggonlaady.livejournal.com]

Yeah... package deal, sorry about that. But maybe there's some crazy bi girl a bit closer to you that's not all hung up on a straight boy. :D