Oh, how I feel the frustration. My almost 25yo way-younger-than-me brother is dealing with anxiety/PTSD/sleep disorders from the trauma of our mother dying in front of him and he is no way/no where/no how closer to launching into independence.
Short bursts, and “sandwich” presentation seems to help my husband and I. Our family therapist suggested sandwiching to us...you’ve probably heard of it in Corporateland. I hadn’t, but putting a constructive suggestion between two compliments seems to make a request a 50/50 crapshoot. It’s so much better than the 90% chance of no progress that we usually deal with.
The resentment is so real, and it ebbs and flows depending on the day and spoon balance. I’m terrified that he’s going to be a perpetual child, and I’m somehow contributing to it.
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Date: 2022-04-06 04:37 am (UTC)From:Short bursts, and “sandwich” presentation seems to help my husband and I. Our family therapist suggested sandwiching to us...you’ve probably heard of it in Corporateland. I hadn’t, but putting a constructive suggestion between two compliments seems to make a request a 50/50 crapshoot. It’s so much better than the 90% chance of no progress that we usually deal with.
The resentment is so real, and it ebbs and flows depending on the day and spoon balance. I’m terrified that he’s going to be a perpetual child, and I’m somehow contributing to it.