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a phone call with Mom
Feb. 23rd, 2019 11:35 amWhen I got home from Re-bar last night, I saw an email from Mom asking when would be a good time to call. I answered Mom, and alerted the United Sister Front. Mom and I haven't spoken in what, three months?
I just got off the phone with Mom about twenty minutes ago. The call itself lasted about fifteen minutes, which is generally how long Mom can keep it together before she really goes off the deep end. It was about 40% small talk, 60% complaints.
She still doesn’t seem to know where her money is. Surely her guardian has told her. She keeps getting surprised when it isn't where she expects it to be, and freaks out about notifications from banks about his activity.
She asked him how to get out of guardianship. He said, “When you die.” She told me that twice over the course of the call. She thinks she can get out of guardianship through marriage. I didn’t try to disabuse her of this notion.
Sometimes it was hard for me to tell what she was complaining about, her guardian or a neurological exam that she failed, despite it being something for "a ten-year-old".
Of course she complained that we put her in guardianship in the first place. I said, "Mom, we've been over this." I didn't repeat our list of reasons why. ETA: They're in the goddamn court filings, of which she was given a copy.
She said she was writing up a medication list and was going to have a cardiac stress test next week. Yay no more cardiac surprises?
The good news is that we didn't get into any real arguments, mainly because I managed to keep my mouth shut. The bad news is that she's still a delusional ball of hurt feelings, and I doubt that'll change. Until she dies.
I just got off the phone with Mom about twenty minutes ago. The call itself lasted about fifteen minutes, which is generally how long Mom can keep it together before she really goes off the deep end. It was about 40% small talk, 60% complaints.
She still doesn’t seem to know where her money is. Surely her guardian has told her. She keeps getting surprised when it isn't where she expects it to be, and freaks out about notifications from banks about his activity.
She asked him how to get out of guardianship. He said, “When you die.” She told me that twice over the course of the call. She thinks she can get out of guardianship through marriage. I didn’t try to disabuse her of this notion.
Sometimes it was hard for me to tell what she was complaining about, her guardian or a neurological exam that she failed, despite it being something for "a ten-year-old".
Of course she complained that we put her in guardianship in the first place. I said, "Mom, we've been over this." I didn't repeat our list of reasons why. ETA: They're in the goddamn court filings, of which she was given a copy.
She said she was writing up a medication list and was going to have a cardiac stress test next week. Yay no more cardiac surprises?
The good news is that we didn't get into any real arguments, mainly because I managed to keep my mouth shut. The bad news is that she's still a delusional ball of hurt feelings, and I doubt that'll change. Until she dies.
