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the last call to Mom
Apr. 6th, 2023 10:46 amI talked to Mom via FaceTime earlier this morning, and it's fitting to say "to" and not "with". She didn't speak or make eye contact, and about halfway through she closed her eyes. Toward the end she turned her head to the side. Her mouth hung open the entire time. The death doula says this kind of behavior has only started in the last couple of weeks.
A few months ago Good Sister said that if I were to visit her, I should do it then. That ship has definitely sailed, and so has another one: GS says she's stopped calling Mom and advised me to do the same because it's just too taxing for her, as I could see. Good Sister still sends cards, though, which maybe the death doula reads to Mom?
It occurs to me that I probably heard the last words I'll ever hear from my mother a few weeks ago. They were, with some prompting from the death doula, "I love you." Mom gives every indication of being ready to die.
Edited to add: I took a nice photo of the cherry blossoms nearest the Devil Girl House a few days ago. I just printed a copy and mailed it to her.
Edited to add some more: Evil Sister was with Mom last week. Three days out of four, she had an experience just like mine. There's something to be said for the United Sister Front's Text Thread of Doom.
A few months ago Good Sister said that if I were to visit her, I should do it then. That ship has definitely sailed, and so has another one: GS says she's stopped calling Mom and advised me to do the same because it's just too taxing for her, as I could see. Good Sister still sends cards, though, which maybe the death doula reads to Mom?
It occurs to me that I probably heard the last words I'll ever hear from my mother a few weeks ago. They were, with some prompting from the death doula, "I love you." Mom gives every indication of being ready to die.
Edited to add: I took a nice photo of the cherry blossoms nearest the Devil Girl House a few days ago. I just printed a copy and mailed it to her.
Edited to add some more: Evil Sister was with Mom last week. Three days out of four, she had an experience just like mine. There's something to be said for the United Sister Front's Text Thread of Doom.
