February, when a middle-aged nun's thoughts turn to love

[sistawendy]

My shrink and I, and even one or two of you, agree that I need to find a girlfriend. Pity that's a bit more complicated than grocery shopping.

You see, I'm a lesbian, and sadly, I still have my junk. Junk is unpopular with many lesbians, even sane ones. I try not to take that personally, but it makes the prospect of meeting women that much more nerve-wracking. No way in hell am I walking into a group of lesbians unescorted. At least not yet.

And who would I get to escort me? Well, I do have a trans friend or two who seem to have managed. There's the Wet Spot CSPC and MyCo's GLBT employee association, which are more mixed and therefore safer gatherings. Still, I'm not ready to do anything as convenient as just bopping on down to the Wild Rose alone.

Social anxiety? Me? In this situation, you bet.

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I've apparently lost what was left of my mind: I signed up to answer phones at KEXP on Saturday - from 0645 to 0915. That's the only shift they had left. That's during "Mind Over Matters", the Saturday morning news that I'm never awake early enough to listen to.

I answered phones there before at a less brutal hour on a weekday morning. It's so weird to hear & see John Richards's voice produced from something biological instead of a plastic box full of electronics.

I'll be going out Saturday night, and I'm so disco napping on Saturday afternoon.

Comments

[arjache.livejournal.com]

Let me know if you want a buddy at the Wild Rose sometime. It can be kind of intimidating, but it's actually a pretty easy-going place once you get in the front door. There's actually very little policing that I'm aware of - it somehow manages to be a dyke bar and a mixed space at the same time. And despite living near it, I hardly ever go since I dislike going to bars alone, so it'd be good for me, too.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Hell. Yes!

I need to look at what happens when there, but how's next week looking? I have the following nights free: the 28th, the 3rd, the 7th, the 10th, and the 14th.

[arjache.livejournal.com]

Hooray! Next week looks good for me - I tend to have Mondays and Thursdays free.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

How's Thursday the 3rd? Do you want to get dinner there? It's not bad for bar food.

[arjache.livejournal.com]

*looks at menu* When on earth did the Wild Rose start offering so much food?

But yes, dinner and drinks on Thursday the 3rd sounds good. It doesn't really perk up until later in the evening, so maybe meet there late-ish? Sometime after 7:30 or later would work best for me, but I don't know what your schedule looks like.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

OK, see you at the Wild Rose at 8:00 on Thursday, March 3rd 2011.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

We're still on for tonight at 8:00 at the Wildrose, right?

[arjache.livejournal.com]

Yup! See you there.

[javagoth.livejournal.com]

If it makes you feel better - I'm too nervous to go to the Wild Rose alone too. I am terribly shy - particularly when meeting women...

[princessgeek.livejournal.com]

Can you sing at all? You might consider joining the Seattle Women's Chorus. You could also join as a non singing member and help with other stuff. Lots of friendly ladies that won't care whether you have junk or not. It's not necessarily a dating scene, but there are lots of really great women to hang with. (Pun not intended, but I like it)

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Arg. I have an ear, but my new & improved speaking voice is in a range with a bunch of breaks in it. It doesn't sound that good when I project, either. That's another thing I'd be afraid of.

[princessgeek.livejournal.com]

well, there are 200 of us. Projecting isn't really an issue. How bout this: when we do auditions again (we're in the middle of a show right now) I'll let you know and you can decide then. :D

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

OK. I'll try anything once.

[adularia.livejournal.com]

Cannot. Look. Away. From. Your. Icon.

[alexiarnps.livejournal.com]

There are more lesbian / bi women out there than you think that are wild about having both the cupcakes and the franks and beans.

It's a bit too public here to get in to my history with this particular dalliance, but just trust me on this one...

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Heh. Thanks for the encouragement.

ETA: This made my day. You get the coveted Funniest Friends Entry of the Day award!

[mahariel.livejournal.com]

A friend of the husband's is married to a man who cross-dresses. She told us when she first started dating him that she had been looking for a girlfriend but got "the best of both worlds." So, again with the encouragement.

edited because I can't type

[schmi.livejournal.com]

I wish I had some useful advice to give you, but it looks like others here have already chimed in, so I won't pretend to talk about something I know nothing about. Good luck and I hope you find a girlfriend! OKCupid is always an option? Also, maybe dating someone who is bisexual?

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Also, maybe dating someone who is bisexual?

Oh, I already knew that was an excellent option. :) They're not exactly easy to spot, though.

[schmi.livejournal.com]

OKCupid FTW!