Nun loses whip cherry, becomes sardine.

[sistawendy]

I finally made it to a tasting party at the CSPC. That's where n00bs like yours truly get to sample the variegated delights of BDSM.

It was crowded. The fellow who flogged me, who had a manner right out of a suburban sports bar, was delighted that it was the best-attended he'd ever seen, and he'd seen plenty. I got there fifteen minutes after the doors opened, and I was near the bottom of most lists. Moral: get there early.

Speaking of flogging, I'll give you the scoop on what I tried & liked. But first, I should say that I was a very poor predictor of my own tastes, even based on my (admitedly limited) past experience. You really do have to try it all. OK, I do.


In more or less chronological order:

• Spanking: I expected to like it 'cause it's relatively light, but I hated it.


• TENS unit: This is a medical device that administers small electric shocks in various waveforms. I expected to like it based on my experience with the Electrobike at SEAF, but I was distinctly underwhelmed.


• Flogging: I wasn't sure whether I'd like this or not. It's all right, but it wasn't a fave-rave. If you're going to flog me, though, make it as high on thud and low on sting as you can.


• Rope bondage: Not bad. I want more. She only tied my arms behind my back, and I want to be immobilized or the floor, for which there probably wasn't time.


• Saran wrap mummification: I wasn't going to do this at first because it sounded, well, lame, but I loved it! I got wriggly & giggly there on the rack. Saran is really warm, which you'd never expect if you're used to latex.


• Slapping & punching: Given my experience with the flogging, I expected to like the punching, but not so much. See? Totally non-intuitive. I did, however, absolutely love having my breasts slapped. That was my hands-down favorite of the night. The top in question is an older butch with all kinds of motherly advice like "Remember to tell your top you turn red easily" and "Don't ever let anyone hit you in the sternum or the collarbone." Maybe it was because she made me laugh like a loon, but she charmed my socks off. I've seen her before, and I'll definitely see her again.


• Single tail whips: OK, this was kind of intuitive. I was afraid to try it, and it is a bit much for me, but it wasn't as bad as I expected. I might be able to do this with a top who's willing to take it very slowly. I loved having my hair brushed with the tip of the whip, too.

Things that I was too late to get into but wanted to: caning, paddling, suspension, the Violet Wand.

Things I passed on: needles, hot cups cupping.

Eye candy: Unexpectedly good.

Peeps: Yes. Freaky Seattle is a small town, but I keep getting surprised by who lives there. Girl Named After a Rock bagged, which made me sad, but there was plenty to keep me occupied.


I am, in the words of one friend, a cheap date. Surprising as sunrise.

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After the CSPC, I went down to Re-bar where I'd told GLBT people from MyCo to meet me if they wanted to talk about pride. Hah. It was so packed, nobody would have ever found me. I had a fabulous time, though; I've been so busy working on Project Girlfriend that I've been depriving myself of vital house & techno groove.

Comments

[evillinn.livejournal.com]

Hot cups? Is that cupping as is done by some massage therapists?

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

I think so. The top was leaving some pretty spectacular marks on people. I'm guessing that massage therapists don't do that. ;)

[evillinn.livejournal.com]

Assuming its the same thing, when I've had it done in a massage setting, it left some intense marks - something akin to having made out with an octopus.

Its an incredible sensation. If you aren't adverse to the marks, you should consider giving it a try. :) I believe the intensity can be pretty well controlled, since I know the suction can be partially released if I tell my practitioner that its too much.

[evillinn.livejournal.com]

also, if you opt for a different setting, turtlegrrl does this as part of her practice, which is where I've experienced it and request it at every massage.

[savannarama.livejournal.com]

I watched one of the tv chefs (bald guy, short, amusing, can't remember his name) have it done on his show . . . holistic treatment for a cold. Left marks for some time, but of course: non-permanent ones. Heard about it for years--didn't know the bdsm community did it too (although I suppose I could have figured).

[schmi.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I've had cupping done too. I had the marks on my body for three days.

[princessgeek.livejournal.com]

I've always been amazed at what I like (cell popping, whips) vs. what I don't (anything electric) I haven't tried everything (needles) but I think I've had enough anyway. I ran a "cuddle booth" at one of those things a while back and there seemed to be some confusion as to what "cuddling" entailed. Ugh.

[queenofthenight.livejournal.com]

Lol.. I think I know the flogging top of whom you speak. Will confirm at our lunch this week. Congrats on all the exploring. ;)

[queenofthenight.livejournal.com]

I am also a fan of cupping, for the record... insanely therapeutically good. :)

[m-cobweb.livejournal.com]

I'm envious. I'm so twitchy about being touched by strangers or even mild acquaintances that I miss out on a lot of things I wish I could experience. It's like being hungry but allergic to everything on the menu. :-(

[savannarama.livejournal.com]

i have a friend who had himself saran-wrapped to a backboard and suspended over a party, where he could simply watch. He loved it! :)

[genniferholland.livejournal.com]

If you are not a fan of "stingy" I would pass on caning. ;)

[alton-lust.livejournal.com]

I'm so impressed with your pluck. I doubt I would try more than 2 or 3 of these and you ran down a whole list. Of course everything around here is BYO and no dim sum.