Nun starts drama storm. Film when hell freezes over.

[sistawendy]

Remember a couple of entries ago, when I expressed shock and dismay at being called my son's dad in public? I cross-posted it to Zuckerberg's data mine. Drama ensued. Once again, it was an unpleasant surprise. I mean, it's wonderful that plenty of my friends have my back, but it's less than wonderful that some of them now aren't speaking to each other. And some of the 'splaining that went on was kind of like watching the fireball from a derailed fuel train: hypnotic and voluminous, but messy and tragic.

Resolved: I'm not going to censor myself over this or anything like it in the future. And you know things like this are going to keep on happening for the rest of my life.

It's yet another hard lesson in what people around me are really made of, but no one gets to tell me how to feel or what to write about any of this.

Comments

Have chainsaw, will travel

[loree.livejournal.com]

It's no loss, honestly. If she's more concerned about the hypothetical motives of someone she doesn't even know than about your own feelings and she flips out and flounces when she's called on it, she's a bad friend and I'm glad she's self-identified as an intolerant ass so I feel no guilt about cutting her out of my life.

I am very sorry to set the torch to gasoline in your space, but I would like to point out that she presumed I was speaking about her (I wasn't, in fact). And that speaks volumes about her own feelings on the subject of friendship vis-a-vis the rights of trans* people, IMO.

[dagard.livejournal.com]

Fuck ''em. All of everybody.

You've got a dag. I'd say it if you didn't. Hell, I'd say it anyway, just a lot more crudely than May be appropriate.

[faerieburst.livejournal.com]

But MAURA, you are so MEAN to presume that there was either ignorance, malice, or passive-aggressive behaviour because there is NO OTHER WORD IN THE ENGLISH LANGUAGE to address you as other than "dad". None. At all. Ever.

::headdesk, headdesk, headdesk::

Seriously, that was so full of what the fuck I didn't even know how to wrap my head around it. I responded as civilly as I could, but I'll tell you, that was like the 5th edit removing things like "Are you fucking kidding me?", "You cannot actually be taking that stance with a straight face.", "This MUST be an initiation trolling prank from 4chan because no one who has been around Maura for that long could POSSIBLY be making that argument.", and "Oh my god, good riddance."

I can be civil when I have to.

But jesus fuck.

~Aramada

[maellenkleth]

a quiet hug and an expression of deep comprehension from afar...

Maura, you're one **solid** woman, in my estimation.

/elane

[apestyle.livejournal.com]

Was that "evil sister"?

Is a puzzlement

[parityanimal.livejournal.com]

Neighbor was clearly in the wrong, but I would ascribe it to ignorance and uncouth rather than stupidity.

While not defending the clueless neighbor I'd venture to guess that a lot of non-LGBTQ persons would not have, off the top of their heads, quite known what to say.

To me, the OBVIOUS thing would be, "Oh, look, there's Maura and her son!" would be just fine, but I can sort of see an ignorant (not necessarily stupid, just ignorant, as in not knowledgable) person starting off with, "Oh look there's BOY and his..." and then possibly floundering upon realizing that Dad doesn't fit anymore but not knowing offhand what does fit.

But just saying flippantly, "Oh look, there's boy and his dad!" clearly does NOT fit and should not have been uttered!