Un-news: my mother still has dementia.

[sistawendy]

One tiny upside to all this drama with my mother is that Evil Sister is looking out for me: she warned me yesterday that the "crazy wind" was blowing in such a way that Mom is mad at me for a) talking to her doctor, b) being "rude", and c) sending her birthday card to early. The explanations:

1. That was over six months ago, back when we needed evidence that she's bananas. But with Mom now, the past isn't past anymore. Maybe that's bound to happen when you don't have much of a future.
2. When she complained that she no longer had control over her finances, I pointed out that that was the point of the lawsuit. She didn't like my tone and misgendered me.
3. My late father's birthday is four days (and one year) before hers. I sent her card early enough that it arrived on his birthday. Mom decided that I'd gotten them mixed up. As my sisters know, this is laughable.

I skipped calling Mom yesterday, with my sisters' blessing. There's no reason to, since ES just verified that she's still breathing, and heaven knows I don't want to hear what she has to say.

Says ES, Mom's terrified we're going to try to put her in a home, possibly due to the whisperings of that Trump trash geezer* she's been hanging around with. The funny thing is, that decision is no longer in the hands of the United Sister Front; it's in the hands of her guardian.

Someday I'm going to get a call from Good Sister saying, basically, "Meet me where we came from." I hope it only happens once, and oddly enough, I hope all three members of the USF show up.



*Back when Evil Sister lived in my hometown, he & ES went to the same church. She says the whole congregation thought he was a blowhard jerk.

Comments

[staxxy]

oof. *hugs*

[randomdreams]

I don't know if this could effect any sort of reconciliation with ES, but, at least, you now have some more shared experience.

[ivy]

Sympathy. It's hard when you've lost them but they're still here, being a bad copy of their past selves.