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The Wendling spent last night here, as usual for a Monday. He told me that he'd just found out I don't have to pay any more alimony after February 2022. He said that, basically, it was time to make a move toward independence, since his mother won't be able to afford feeding him anymore.
Where to start? On the one hand, it's wonderful that he's finally come to the belated conclusion that he should, like, be a person. On the other, it's classic Wendling to wait until circumstances force his hand. The dude follows the path of least resistance so well you'd think he's made entirely of electrons.
I gently brought up the possibility of going back to school (which would mean facing his ADHD) and working toward being a lawyer, for which I think he's temperamentally & intellectually suited. He called it a "pipe dream". He seems to have no plan other than getting more hours at the supermarket where he works. As I told him at the time, he broke my heart. I know everything sucks right now, but Christ on a pogo stick, it's not right for him to give up before he's even really started. I haven't the faintest idea how to fix that.
It occurs to me that I should talk to Ex. I haven't had a serious chat with her in ages.
Where to start? On the one hand, it's wonderful that he's finally come to the belated conclusion that he should, like, be a person. On the other, it's classic Wendling to wait until circumstances force his hand. The dude follows the path of least resistance so well you'd think he's made entirely of electrons.
I gently brought up the possibility of going back to school (which would mean facing his ADHD) and working toward being a lawyer, for which I think he's temperamentally & intellectually suited. He called it a "pipe dream". He seems to have no plan other than getting more hours at the supermarket where he works. As I told him at the time, he broke my heart. I know everything sucks right now, but Christ on a pogo stick, it's not right for him to give up before he's even really started. I haven't the faintest idea how to fix that.
It occurs to me that I should talk to Ex. I haven't had a serious chat with her in ages.
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Date: 2020-06-16 11:58 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2020-06-17 05:30 am (UTC)From:2. I cannot picture him even vaguely wanting to be a lawyer. Huh.
3. Sweetheart, even tho' he's your kid, you can't fix him.
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Date: 2020-06-17 05:34 am (UTC)From:Oh, lawyering was his idea. He loves to talk about SCOTUS news. And yeah, I know he has to find his own future. But first he has to want to.