sistawendy: Lego me in a red dress holding a beer tankard (celebration plastic)
Good Sister is no longer, at least legally, the executor of my mother's will. As far as the courts are concerned, she's done. That means she doesn't have to periodically report to them anymore. (Yes, I just verified that.) She's relieved, and I have texted her mazel tov.

Does this mean that Mom's house has sold? Hell no. In fact, just the other day GS sent the other two of us a detailed list of the work in progress or planned to get the house ready for (mercifully quick, we hope) sale. Total cost: $16K. Even Niece E has pitched in, having refused our offer of compensation.

Now I have a mental image of my short, thin sister in a black, face-covering hood with a blood-stained ax. I'm sure she wanted to physically execute the will and a few people associated with it many times.
sistawendy: me in the Mercury's alley with the wind catching my hair (smoldering windblown Merc alley)
Welp, our new real estate agent fired us for not quickly agreeing to pour money into the house. Honestly, the United Sister Front is, well, united in thinking it's just as well. Good Sister had already asked the agent a couple of times if she really wanted to work with us. GS & I want to minimize what we spend on remodeling, and Evil Sister has registered outright opposition.

Good Sister, being the go-getter that she is, already has someone else lined up. Let's do this thing.

Took the bus to get crafting supplies yesterday evening. Overheard people talking about the anti-trans rally over the weekend in Cal Anderson Park where 23 counter-protesters were arrested. Stopped by Mr. B's on the way home, and got both a cup and a bottle of mead. Yes, all of those sentences belong together.
sistawendy: me in C18-inspired makeup looking amused (amused eighteenthcent)
Woman #1: Good Sister was in LA visiting my filmmaker niece M1. She called to give me an update about the mom's house... which she can't really do anything about until she gets home tomorrow. In any case, the plan is to get a new real estate agent, make improvements the new agent suggests, and yank the place off the market for a couple of weeks*.

Oh, and for GS to legally finish with the estate? Does not require the sale of the house, says a better lawyer than she had before. In fact, this better lawyer told Good Sister not to waste money hiring a new one. Hurrah for Good Sister! And, I guess, the United Sister Front, since the money paying for this belongs to all of us.

Mental note: if I ever make it down to LA again, drop M1 a line and see if she wants to get something to eat.

Woman #2: Speaking of eats, Dancer wanted to have cheap eats, debrief me about Petting Zoo, and make (ahem) plans for the weekend. Done, and thoroughly enjoyed. There are many far worse ways to spend a Monday evening.



*Apparently that isn't long enough to "delist" the house. To do that it would have to be off the market for 90 days, which none of us want to do.
sistawendy: me looking confident in a black '50s retro dress (mad woman)
Today is the third anniversary of when I moved myself into the Devil Girl House. (I'd moved my stuff in a week earlier.) Am I still happy here? Hell yes! Am I still planning improvement? Yup. Am I going to keep inviting people over now that I have a place that I'm proud of? You know it. Have I made good use of the high ceiling above the living room? Shyeah!

Am I still getting plenty of exercise from grocery shopping? Yes. Am I still going out to all the places down the hill and spending too much? Oddly enough, no. Am I relieved that I have an inflation hedge? Uh, yeah. Have I gotten used to the occasional swarm of bikers on the nearby highway? It's a ritual of spring, baby.
sistawendy: a cartoon of me saying "Praise Bob!" (prabob)
Good Sister texted* and then called to tell me that she has in her hot little email inbox a copy of the signed court order that will allow her to sell Mom's house. The lawyer finally came through. And the United Sister Front has, at least in theory, taken a giant step towards its inhertance.

It was supposed to take a week or two, she said. It ended up taking seven months. I told GS that she could be done with everything this calendar year, and she said she was hoping to be done with it in the next couple of months. It's the peak of house-hunting season in the US right now, and she's hoping to unload the place before the entire economy goes down the drain.

Good Sister said I should celebrate tonight. I don't need much encouragement.



*She texted a golf victory video. That must be her husband's influence.
sistawendy: me in my nun costume with my duster cross, looking hopeful (hopeful nun)
Good Sister, or rather her lawyer, finally has the court order that allows GS to sell Mom's house. I checked this here journal and it's been on the market for eight months. Might this be the year that Good Sister is Done With All This? I hope so. She has so very got it coming.

I wonder if homes in the inland parts of Florida, including the one I grew up in, are as uninsurable as on the coasts are these days. That may put a damper on my plans to swan around like an heiress.

I also wonder if the house's new owner will want to pry up all those bricks that my father laid in the sidewalk with so much swearing and bleeding forty fifty years ago. If they do, I hope it hurts them.

Speaking of swanning around, it's warm and sunny, a whopping 63°F (17C), so it's time to take The Coat to the cleaners.
sistawendy: me looking confident in a black '50s retro dress (mad woman)
So I spent an hour or so at a protest against Tesla (read: Elon Musk) at the Tesla dealership in central Seattle this morning. I'm glad they had a sign for me to wave because I didn't bring one of my own. There were a couple of hundred attendees; lots of hars honking in support, even one Tesla; no counter-protesters. Out of the couple hundred I was one of at least three trans people. Go us!

One of those trans people told me she'd looked into Tesla's financials. I'd heard that Tesla is the only one of Musk's businesses that makes money (except perhaps those dependent on goverment contracts), but here was the interesting thing: the only part of Tesla that's making money is service. Since Tesla is vertically integrated, a Tesla dealership is the only place you can get one serviced without voiding the warranty if at all. That sounds like an excellent opportunity for someone to hack a car.

But seriously, selling Teslas or Tesla stock is the best way to screw Musk. I need to look into whether I own any TSLA indirectly. Since the insiders have started dumping it, I'm betting that I don't, at least not anymore.

I rode my bike to the protest and back, stopping at PCC to stuff my messenger bag full of groceries on the way home (uphill, uff da). I felt so Seattle it hurt.

I have grand plans tonight. The Devil Girl shall ride again.

Edited to add: I just checked, and if I indirectly hold any TSLA, it isn't much. Never mind the other scummy companies I have an interest in.
sistawendy: me in the Mercury's alley with the wind catching my hair (smoldering windblown Merc alley)
I just got my tax refund. Given that Musk is trying to mess with the IRS, I was worried that I might not.

I filed on Feb. 9th, so this is a personal speed record for me. And why did I get my refund so quickly? First, electronic filing, obvi. Second, necessity is a mother: Lambert House gave me some money, but they never sent me a 1099. I asked Ken if they withheld anything, and he said no. It turns out that you don't have to attach 1099s if they show no withholding, and I (should have) had two of those.

So that's my vacation from last month and bike repair paid for. I have a little left over, but not enough for any of the major home improvements on my list. Meh, it's not burning a hole in my pocket. I can get a few junipers for that super sunny patch on the north side of the yard.

I will not buy more latex or a Burning Man ticket. I will not buy more latex or a Burning Man ticket.
sistawendy: me in a Gorey vamp costume looking up (skeptic coy Gorey tilted down)
Telecommunication #1, Friday: former co-worker M calling* and telling me to talk to my HR department to see if they'll let me work for them from Canada, and maybe even sponsor me.

Telecommunication #2, Saturday: my ex texted me to tell me to make plans for Canada. If you'll recall, Ex is Jewish and like many if not most American Jews she lost relatives in the Holocaust.

Telecommunication #3, Sunday: Good Sister called with what she called an update with no real news. Her lawyer is being kind of weird about getting us permission to sell Mom's house, telling GS not to call the court about it. My sister is a ball of frustration about to go super-critical. She's calling the court today, and has let her weird lawyer know that.

Telecommunication #4, Sunday: I texted the director of Lambert House asking if they'd sent out their 1099s yet; I can't file my taxes until I've seen it. He responded with a thumbs-up tapback. What does that even mean?

The thing is, the Canadians aren't going to do squat for trans Americans unless their lives are directly threatened, and maybe not even then. Sure, I'll talk to HR and update my go bag, but really? That's about it.



*We're Xers. We talk on the phone.
sistawendy: me in a Gorey vamp costume looking up (skeptic coy Gorey tilted down)
Way back in May I got an escrow refund in the mail in the low five figures. Why? I didn't (Foreshadowing!) know, but gift horses. I put most of it in the bank.

Well, it's a good thing I did because yesterday I got mail yesterday from a a company in Texas asking for a slightly smaller amout back. That company processes mortgages on behalf of lenders, and they'd overpaid my property taxes, apparently thinking that the developers who built my house still owned it.

Yeah, I know that sounds fishy, but I called the county treasurer's office, as the letter from Texas encouraged me to do. The Texas company is legit, says the county, and the county has records of payments that are identical to what the Texas company sent.

The Texas company has not threatened legal action. I'm honestly not sure that they can, credibly. I'm loath to let go of that cash, natch, but how much trouble am I asking for if I don't? I have to wonder if the human who's surely responsible for that mistake has been fired yet.

Moral: real estate transactions are so complicated that even the pros get things wrong some times.
sistawendy: me looking confident in a black '50s retro dress (mad woman)
I used most of my tax refund to pay off my sewer connection charge. That means I saved $1200 spread over eight years, which could easily have been a wash due to inflation. However, non-payment of that bill is one less thing that can go wrong now. And if anybody ever needs to sell the Devil Girl House, that's one less thing standing in the way. Go me, I think. I occasionally act like an adult.

I fulfilled a promise to [profile] seelenschwester and went to the Mercury in the full Devil Girl outfit, including the murderous boots. (I'd meant to wear it for either Christmas or New Year's, but I was sick for both.) It took a while for the night to get rolling and I was crashing by 2330, but I did get to see A and bond over "Cars" by Gary Numan. I also got to show Dancer the glory that is the Devil Girl.

And another good part of the Merc outing: I didn't see Temptress's trash boyfriend. I didn't see her either, unfortunately, but it's still a win.
sistawendy: me looking confident in a black '50s retro dress (mad woman)
Says the IRS, my refund is approved and should be in my hot little hands next week. I have already bragged to my CPA sister, i.e. Good Sister.

The only significant complication this year was getting the last of Mom's Social Security money. What you do in that case is just act like a normal Social Security recipient and go through their little worksheet, which because of my other income said that 85% of what I got was taxable.

Oh: KEXP sent me a tax form for my donation to them several days after I filed, so I could have deducted that. I guess donation statements aren't subject to the same proptness requirements as 1099s & W2s. C'est la vie. Enjoy your ~$30 windfall, Uncle Sam.

What to do with the refund? It'll be slightly larger than the balance of my sewer hookup charge – a downside of new construction. I can save $1K by paying it off ASAP, but given the state of the world, maybe I should just save it.
sistawendy: me at a house party cradling a taco like a baby (taco madonna)
The Social Security Administration says it owed Mom some money, so it sent my sisters and me each a check for five hundred and some dollars. I don't have any plans to spend it immediately, but it's definitely nice to have. What's odd is that I got SSA's letter of explanation, but Good Sister hadn't as of yesterday. She found out through me.

Speaking of money, I found out the other day that I paid just shy of $42K in mortgage interest last year. Most of that is tax-deductible. Maybe I'll be able to use the refund to pay off the sewer connection charge, which by the way is an example of how it's expensive to be poor: if you pay it off in one lump sum, you save $1000.

Good Goddess, I sound like a pod person. I promise to return to queer dating and kink ASAP.
sistawendy: me in my nun costume with my duster cross, looking hopeful (hopeful nun)
I called up the people with Mom's retirement money and reminded them that Good Sister had sent the death certificate with the cause of death last week. They appeared to need the reminder. I also asked them, "Where's my dough, you goons?" "Do you need anything else from me?"

They said they needed nothing further from me, and that they'd get my request "processed". So yeah, I've been checking my bank balance about as often as observant Muslims pray.
sistawendy: me at a house party cradling a taco like a baby (taco madonna)
Good Sister has received the death certificate with the cause of death, and is forwarding it along to company that manages Mom's retirement money.

How do I spell relief? GS. If she ever wants anybody whacked, I guess I have to do it, don't I? But if that were ever going to happen, it probably would have happened by now, given the epic frustrations she's faced as Mom's guardian. And in that case the bums would have had it coming.
sistawendy: a cartoon of me looking angry (angry cartoon)
I just got a call from Good Sister. Even though she, like me, was told in writing that she needed a version of Mom's death certificate with the cause of death and even though the certificate still hasn't reached her two weeks after she requested it, she, like Evil Sister, has gotten (some of?) her money.

What did they both do to deserve their money that I didn't, you ask? Apparently, they both asked for a live check. I asked for an electronic transfer, like someone born after World War II.

This isn't avarice or malice. This is pure Muppetry.

Good Sister graciously offered to request the necessary death certificate through an alternative channel (There's an alternative channel?!) on my behalf, because where the state of Florida is involved we don't trust bureaucrats not to screw a trans person if they sniff one out.

Updated to add: I asked GS if I should just call the investment company and ask for a paper check, and she said no. My sisters only got their money because of "a crack in their system", and alerting the company to that crack won't convince them to let me through it. If anyone knows this stuff by now, it's Good Sister. Le sigh.
sistawendy: me in a Gorey vamp costume looking up (skeptic coy Gorey tilted down)
Good Sister just called, right before her bedtime. It's always exciting.

Good: My mother's investments with a certain financial institution don't have to go through probate, unlike her other assets. They just get disbursed to us heirs. Uh, gosh, I sure could use a cash infusion right about now.

Bad: Unlike Evil Sister, I've received no notification. There are two likely reasons: I don't have an account with this institution, and they might have used my previous address. GS recommends that I bug them over the phone, and warns me that'll be time-consuming.

Unknown: Do they have the correct name for me? I don't know, but it's possible. If Mom (or Good Sister) used even my old address, I was using my current name a couple of years before I even moved into the old Devil Girl Pad.

Also unknown: how much money we're talking about. Known: Good Sister just sent me a photo of the letter that Evil Sister got. The amount is in the high four figures, if I understand it correctly, i.e. it's to be divided by three. Nothing to sneeze at, certainly.
sistawendy: me in a Gorey vamp costume looking up (skeptic coy Gorey tilted down)
The latest from Good Sister is that Mom's weight is holding steady at 117 lbs. Yay? That reminds me: I need to send her another card.

And speaking of inheritance, Ex and Exbro have made arrangements to sell the late Exmother's San Francisco condo. This means Ex has a big wad of cash coming to her relatively soon. On a recent, increasingly rare phone call, she said it was fine if my contribution to the Wendling's upkeep at her place went from $750/mo. to $500/mo.

And speaking of the Wendling, he'll no longer be eligible for health insurance through me at the end of this month. Thank Goddess he's a union employee and can get health care through their insurance. That's another modest monthly amount that I can sacrifice to the mortgage gods.

Ex took the initiative to get him a new-to-him phone on one condition: he pays for his own plan; currently he's on mine. Oh, and now that he's wrecked my car, he's not on my insurance. Ex and I are slowly but surely dragging him into adulthood. To his credit, he hasn't complained about it – yet. It'll be bittersweet if these new bills are what motivates him to get a career.
sistawendy: me in profile in a Renaissance dress at a party (contemplative red)
There was a Skinny Puppy show on Tuesday night. Damn near everyone went, which really would have been the only attraction for me: I've never been a Skinny Puppy fan. I've been astounded by everyone's tales of discovering SP in their youth. I do miss the nuclear social reaction, though.

Last night was Ladytron, which I admit to wanting to see. Indeed, I'd gotten in line for someone else's freed-up ticket. But then I saw that Kimberly Dietemann, local techno maven who's had some hard times in recent years, was in line right behind me. I thought to myself, a) it's a work night, b) Kimberly is probably a bigger fan than I am, especially of their more recent stuff, and c) what I would have spent on Ladytron plus the latex dinner I'm skipping tonight might, just might, cover the cost of one of the two items for my house that I've bought in the last month.

I... kind of hate myself a little for being an adult.

It occurs to me that no one is going to want to go out this weekend when I'll be out & about. But hey, Tacoma Girl and I have made plans for lower Fremont on Friday.

The Vampire Masquerade Ball is coming, yes. Also Fremont Solstice and Pride next month. I shall have my revenge on the universe. And at some time I shall again invite people over to my dynamite crib.
sistawendy: me in a Gorey vamp costume looking up (skeptic coy Gorey tilted down)
Back on the 19th, somebody used my stolen credit card info to buy stuff. So I reported it to my credit union, who promptly burned my credit card number. I figured that would be the end of it.

But neau. I got email from FedEx saying they were about to deliver a package to my old address. (I updated my addresses with every business I care about a couple of months ago.) I got the package last night and it contained – wait for it – dietary supplements. I don't want them, I don't need them, and I certainly didn't order them.

The only reasons I can think of why a criminal would actually want to ship unwanted merchandise are either a) to inflate their sales numbers, as Chinese merchants did a while back without actually stealing anything, or b) trying harder than usual to make the transaction look legitimate, as if it's about that and not the stuff. Of course it's not about the stuff: I have the stuff.

Somewhat against my better judgment, I talked to the cops, i.e. tips.fbi.gov. Had this been an ordinary theft of credit card info I wouldn't have even considered it, but this feels different. Did my recent move make me a target? Did our possible money launderers goof by failing to realize that my old and new addresses are only ten minutes apart by bus?

Fun fact: both the credit card statement and the label on the package bore the names of businesses in Florida. Different parts of Florida, but I thought it was an interesting coincidence.

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