Yeah, she's crazy, but.

[sistawendy]

From the Dept. of Groundhogs: Sunday at 10:00 AM was time to call my mom again. We've been more or less using that time for twenty-six years. (When I moved three time zones west, I kept the 10:00.) I knew she was going to be in St. Augustine, FL with Strawberry Blond Sister and her family, so I tried her cell. No answer. OK, tried her land line in Gainesville. Busy.

Try the land line two or three more times over the next hour. Busy. Right about now I once again imagined my 72-year-old mother unable to move on her floors with the cordless phone across the room.

So what do I do? I follow the procedure I set up the last time something like this happened: I text SB Sister's husband M. M texts back yeah, your mom's fine and she's right here. One of us called the other and we talked as usual.

Of course that's not the end of the story. This morning I got a text from SB Sister right before my alarm usually goes off: "Hey moron. If you contact anyone in my family again you won't need surgery."

Well, I won't give you the whole conversation not least because I deleted it, but it featured lines like, "You don't get to tell us not to talk to each other," "I'll block your number," and "I'm not responsible for your hate & fear. You are."

The final text in the thread was from her: she'd discovered that a recent thunderstorm had knocked out Mom's VoIP. Her land line was indeed b0rked.

I texted M partway through this, and my number hadn't been blocked. I know because he acked it as I asked. I'll be checking again later. M wasn't pleased last time when she lied about where the text came from.

I wish I felt more victorious than I do. I know I'm right. Mom knows I'm right. M knows I'm right. Dr. Shrink, whom I conveniently had an appointment with immediately afterward, knows I'm right. It's still tough on my nerves, though.

Comments

[icprncs.livejournal.com]

It's very tough on the nerves when someone you've been close to and particularly family turns on you, especially for reasons such as this, no matter how in the right you are (and you are). I feel terribly sorry for her and wish something would knock this fear out of her. But anything I feel for her is minuscule compared to how frustrated and sad I feel on your behalf, that she is subjecting you to this.

[loree.livejournal.com]

Wow, escalating to threats of violence now. IBS sure is a classy one.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Thanks for reminding me of Irritable Bowel Sister.

[gement.livejournal.com]

Good grief. I'm so sorry. It messes with my head if my sister even tells me my shirt's ugly. I can't imagine if she went off the deep end about my identity.

[sirriamnis.livejournal.com]

Holy shit! That is just fucking... wow. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that, sweetie. What the fuck is she scared of?

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

No idea. I'm 3000 miles away. I was just there in April and she (barely) managed to avoid seeing me.

Back when we were kids, SB Sister was the hell raiser: dabbling in dope, much worse grades than she was capable of, the whole bit. Now she seems to be trying to rewrite her life. She's gone churchy - mainstream, thank goodness - even though nobody in her or her husband's family is religious. And I don't fit the new script, apparently.

[sirriamnis.livejournal.com]

That fucking sucks.

We love you up here!

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I appreciate it.

You know, I think having a support network makes all the difference to whether gender transition makes or breaks you.

[heyokish.livejournal.com]

That's just so horrible and fucked up. I'm glad that you know, trust, and really believe that you are right. That matters.

love to you

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

*Purrrr.*

[leenerella]

You are loved!

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :)

[tithonium.livejournal.com]

People keep telling me I don't need a squad of amoral heavily-armed mercenaries.

I know in my hearts they are wrong.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

I don't want SB Sister messily killed. I just want her to stop being a crazy bitch. I'll admit the possibility, however sorrowfully, that your way may be the only way that'll happen.

[tithonium.livejournal.com]

One doesn't have to kill someone to change their behaviour. If she wants to make threats, I'm happy to make threats. It's all about what one believes. ::)

[ximinez]

In my limited experience, crazy bitches never really stop being crazy bitches. At best, they get good at hiding it well enough to get something they want.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

My shrink had an interesting take on this. SB Sister has, in the distant past, mentioned some involvement with "weird men", weird as in maybe transgendered. How much do I really know about her past, especially in regard to trans people? Only what I just told you.

[ximinez]

My hypothesis is that she thinks you're going to try to steal her husband.

[fizzgig-bites.livejournal.com]

Funny how we reject what we don't appreciate. I have always wanted a sister and never had one. When I was a kid, I always wanted a sibling of any kind. If SB rejects you so badly, can I have you as a sister? My mom is pretty cool as is your's. We could go mom surfing together. What is mom surfing, no idea but it sounds like cookies would be involved.

[ximinez]

I wholeheartedly approve of this idea, especially if I can get some of them cookies.

[hestiaschild.livejournal.com]

It would be one thing if she would actually articulate her feelings and have a mature, productive discussion with you in regards to your surgery. To threaten you because you contacted a member of "her family" (silly me, I thought brother in law meant he was your family too) in such a juvenile way...I don't know. It's not my place to judge. I'm sorry that you have to go through this from your own sister. You've got support in DC. Keep your chin up and be hell on heels. That'll really piss her off.