what should have been best birthday wishes

[sistawendy]

My Strawberry Blond Sister, a.k.a. Evil Sister, turns fifty today. I should be celebrating with her, but she had other ideas a few years back because I had the temerity to be who I am.

Even if she sees the light next week, I'll we'll never get today back. I wonder if her children think I've forgotten them. I haven't.

How dares she? Who does something like that - cutting oneself off from a sister - and what do they hope to gain from it? If you ask my mother, there's always been something not quite right about her. I didn't believe Mom until this happened.

Thinking about this required an effort; I didn't even remember until today. Mostly I'm just freaking out about work stuff. For better or for worse.

Comments

Best birthday wishes anyway...

[parityanimal.livejournal.com]

I guess she can't help being who/what she is. Secretly wish her the best anyway and pray for her. About all you can do I guess...

[schmi.livejournal.com]

We have something in common. I empathize.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

Seriously? In a way, that's even worse because you haven't to my knowledge done something that often freaks out family members.

[schmi.livejournal.com]

Long story. I don't think I did anything wrong, so this is something that's entirely my brother's "issue". It makes me sad but it's not something I can do anything about so I have to accept it. I hoped that he's just going through something and will change his mind when he's older and wiser, but your story makes me think that some things will probably never change.

In any case, I wanted you to know that I identify with your pain. It's saddening to know that someone can reach 50 and not realize what they gave up. If I may hazard a suggestion, do you think you could reach out to her? Perhaps she wants to and isn't brave enough.

[sistawendy.livejournal.com]

She's been so nasty to me, even physically threatening me, that I strongly doubt it would do any good.

My mother is in her mid-seventies. Hers could be an... eventful funeral. Luckily, the Good Sister is on speaking terms with Evil Sister and me and is also the executor of my mother's will.

[schmi.livejournal.com]

Ugh.... sorry to hear that. :( It's unbelievable that anyone could be that hateful.

[tmfkan64.livejournal.com]

I don't understand people, sometimes.

Anyway, just keep in mind that living well is the best revenge, even if you aren't really looking for revenge, per se...