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So I went to get my legs waxed this afternoon. I was even a little early thanks to good bus mojo. But once I got nearly nekkid and lay on the table, Ms. Waxy said I didn't have enough hair despite waiting as long as she asked. "I haven't touched it!" I said.
"I know," she said, "but I can't give you a good service."
I felt bad for her, so I made another appointment two weeks hence for legs, booty, and a basic bikini wax. My excuses for the latter two are New Year's Eve and going to the beach in Florida, respectively. Ms. Waxy asked me sotto voce, "This is a delicate question, but... you're post-op, right?"
"Oh yeah. I have a couple of scars under my pubic hair that I'd rather not make visible."
"No, that isn't it. I'm not allowed to do male Brazilians [sic], and I just needed to make sure."
Leaving aside the awkwardness and the hilarity of sounding like a discriminatory policy against the men of one Latin American country, I wonder why that is. I didn't ask, and now I regret that. It can't possibly be a safety issue, can it? I suppose all of the hanging bits could easily chafe, and that's something Ms. Waxy told me to guard against in the first few days after a bikini wax, especially the first.
By the way, the hip trans kids are starting to chafe at the term "post-op", not that I told Ms. Waxy that. There is a certain amount of undue pressure within the trans community to seek out sex reassignment surgery - another term that's in the process of revision, even if there isn't much consensus on a replacement. And those of us who do get SRS tend to have - wait for it - money, so there's definitely a classist and maybe even racist tinge to the above term, or rather the cachet associated with it.
"I know," she said, "but I can't give you a good service."
I felt bad for her, so I made another appointment two weeks hence for legs, booty, and a basic bikini wax. My excuses for the latter two are New Year's Eve and going to the beach in Florida, respectively. Ms. Waxy asked me sotto voce, "This is a delicate question, but... you're post-op, right?"
"Oh yeah. I have a couple of scars under my pubic hair that I'd rather not make visible."
"No, that isn't it. I'm not allowed to do male Brazilians [sic], and I just needed to make sure."
Leaving aside the awkwardness and the hilarity of sounding like a discriminatory policy against the men of one Latin American country, I wonder why that is. I didn't ask, and now I regret that. It can't possibly be a safety issue, can it? I suppose all of the hanging bits could easily chafe, and that's something Ms. Waxy told me to guard against in the first few days after a bikini wax, especially the first.
By the way, the hip trans kids are starting to chafe at the term "post-op", not that I told Ms. Waxy that. There is a certain amount of undue pressure within the trans community to seek out sex reassignment surgery - another term that's in the process of revision, even if there isn't much consensus on a replacement. And those of us who do get SRS tend to have - wait for it - money, so there's definitely a classist and maybe even racist tinge to the above term, or rather the cachet associated with it.
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Date: 2017-11-26 05:33 am (UTC)From:Heh. That hadn’t occurred to me.
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Date: 2017-11-27 02:55 pm (UTC)From:I congratulate you on being up on the trans lingo! Yes, that's the new term I've heard most often.
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